Best Man Duties

Nerds watching a lady strip on a stag do
This is your 'Best Man Duties'... how it really is, so pull up a chair digest and get excited about the big day, after all you are one of the main members of the wedding congregation!

First Of All organise The Stag Do
You will quickly discover that people say one thing but actually mean another, ‘yes’ means ‘maybe’ and ‘no’ means ‘I might change my mind’. Spreadsheets will become the bane of your life and you will probably question why your mate has some very annoying flakey friends!

That’s where DesignaVenture can help relieve the pressure, on this amazing website (we are a little biased) you can book online, view your booking online, send people invites, get them to pay individually (online or over the telephone), see who has paid at any time and on top of all that you have the incredible DesignaVenture customer service, which is second to none.

At The Church

Assisting The Groom On His Wedding Day
First and foremost you will need to provide him with mints to hide the smell of Dutch courage that accompanied his breakfast (provided by you of course).

Be calm and don't become a super nag as the pressure builds…. think about it all you have to do is get him to the church on time, be in charge of the ushers, make sure you have the rings and make a blinding speech, easy uh?

Take Charge Of The Ushers
Bring out your assertive / bossy side and try not to go all diva on the day, no one likes a Diva, ask Elton John's husband! 

So become Team Captain…do your mate proud! Clear the lines of communication with the Groom, find out exactly what is expected of you and the rest of the Groomsmen, you don’t want to be caught off-side on the day!

You Are The Wingman
2 Wedding RingsWhilst waiting for the beautiful blushing bride stand next to the groom and reassure him that his wife-to-be has not left him standing at the alter. Protect his vulnerable side from the sea of eyes that will be on him (until the Bride arrives of course)!

Become Lord Of The Rings
Enough about Elton John already!

You will develop ‘pocket checking’ OCD on the day as you continually have hot flushes and heart palpitations at the thought that you have obviously developed a hole in your pocket and simply lost the rings, don’t over check or you could create that hole!

Of course it would be funny to pretend you had forgotten the rings at that precise moment, dabbing all your pockets for a second or two, after all you are the best man, and your role is to keep the ceremony light hearted.

Autograph Ready
If you have also been given the responsibility of signing the Wedding Certificate, make sure you don't get ‘signing stage fright’. When the bride and groom look back at their marriage certificate they don't really want to think that their 3 year old toddler had defaced it!

If all else fails, consider writing a ‘before you leave for the church’ checklist to save yourself from wanting to dissolve into the church pews and become invisible when you realise that you’ve actually forgotten to do something!

The Party

Rule 1
Best Man Holding Up his Champagne GlassDo not get hammered before your speech, no one wants to see that and looking back at the day, you won't either. One or two for Dutch courage is fine, wait until after you have finished your best man duties before propping up the bar.

Prepare A Killer Best Man Speech
This is now your domain, your chance to shine - you will spend months, weeks, days and hours of wishing you weren’t at the top of your best mate's bezzy mates list, but you are so make him proud.

You need to work out what is, and definitely, what is NOT, acceptable in your speech, you don’t want to find yourself ditched by your best mate after the wedding.

If you need help with some jokes we did a previous post on this call Hilarious Jokes Your Best Man's Speech Needs.

Alternatively if you don't know where to start and need a rescue remedy for your speech block? Go to Stand Up Speeches, it might cost you a few pennies but you're in good hands, one of the writers write for TV don't you know.


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